Love is in the air....

Our wedding day
February 22, 1996

There is something about weddings which deeply affects me.  Some are very casual and others are extremely formal reflecting on the individual couples' personalities. The fact that ALL of them leave me with a sense of renewal is a given.

Today is mine and thine's 16th wedding anniversary!  Although it only seems like a few, short years, much time has passed and in evaluating my feelings and all that has taken place since we exchanged vows on that day in Vegas back in 1996, one thing still remains and has even grown stronger.  The underlying, core feeling of the love and peace of being with the one that was meant for me. 

My sister and her hubby's wedding

I think the marriage's which don't work in the end are hugely because of the stigma that marriage is a Fairy Tale... that you GET married and everything is solved.  That's completely bogus and false.  The moment one gets married, the courting usually stops, the gifts, the everyday thoughtfulness slowly diminish and you find yourself as lonely as you were before you "tied the knot" for life... hoping that it WOULD be a fairy tale.  

I can tell you... Marriage is work... hard work, but with great rewards.   If one would just keep the newness of the relationship by "courting" their spouse each day of their lives, marriages would probably work a whole lot better.  I always wonder what happened to the love which was so present and prevalent at a wedding day when a couple is going through a "bitter" divorce?  Yes, some couples break up for entirely different reasons than just they fell out of love and some may even be valid, or perhaps I am just rationalizing because I have been through one, which wasn't necessarily bitter, but it was definitely irreconcilable differences on both parties' sides. 

Looking to the future!

I just know that every day is not going to be peaches and roses, or strawberries and tulips, but that the enduring love which a couple has at the altar could, and should, be sustained throughout their lives...for better or worse.  We've had our share of bad times with sicknesses, deaths and misunderstandings but we always know that we have each others' back at all times.  That anything hurtful isn't intentional and that everything we do is for the good of the relationship.  We are human, though, and everyone makes mistakes. Moving on and accepting and forgiving is crucial to a relationship.  Hopefully, which in our case it has been, hopefully... the GOOD and happy times will far outweigh the hard ones. With respect, love and open communication the relationship will be nurtured with love each year and will grow so deep that when looking at each other, you don't know where you end or he starts.... a culmination of all the memories, experiences and adventures which you have shared over the years will be so intertwined in each other, will have built a strong foundation that will stand the test of time. Just reflecting and feeling, sometimes, like I AM in a fairytale.  I love my Crazy One ...from day one!   CZ Too!

This past weekend.. Paul and Wanda's wedding in Houston!